Etiquette email dating
Busy week, other things to focus on – sometimes I forget I sent a note at all.
But when she writes back, when she makes eye contact, then the rejection becomes personal and I have to think about it.
On occasion, I’ve contacted the guy a second time and expressed my disappointment in their not answering, and usually, when prodded, they do write something. I wouldn’t call you crazy — but I do wonder why would you pursue someone who initially ignored you.
With that said, again, don’t make this about you — it is about them!
She has taken the time and is making the effort to look me in the eye and make sure I understand that she isn’t interested and to explain why. In nearly every way I can think of, this is upside-down, ass-backwards and inside-out from how I was brought up.
Ignoring someone – someone who is paying you a huge compliment, in fact – is just flat-out What the hell – was I raised in a barn, she’d ask?
Well, unfortunately, you are apparently more courteous that most.
I thought I would share with you an e-mail conversation I had with a website visitor who was sick and tired of the lack of etiquette on dating websites. In my experience, on dating sites men do not feel the need to be courteous because there are no repercussions or accountability for not doing so.Maybe it will help you if you’ve found yourself or someone you know in a similar situation. Often when I contact a man whose profile I like, he doesn’t even bother to answer. I think I am quite attractive, intelligent, and accomplished.And yet, here I am, convinced beyond just about any doubt that what we’d call rudeness in our face to face dealings is a far kinder way of behaving in the online world.It’s cleaner, it’s less awkward, and as counter-intuitive as it may seem, ignoring people spares their feelings.